Gaslighting – Is a very common method to keep you down, confused and under control. You have this weird sensation, that something is wrong or out-of-place and if you ask the person you suspect, you will get a runaround and selective memories, all with the purpose to turn the blame onto yourself to the point where you think, you finally have lost it.
Very often, Time, Dates and Locations are used as a tool, to fool you. The argument, about when something occurred or where it was, can lead up to an argument, that is the whole purpose for taking you off your base. Silly things, you rather want to forget, but when you start to pick up a pattern like this, it will begin to irritate you and you want to fight back.
Since this is your opponents game plan and it’s not your fight, you might lose the unwanted battle and succumb over time. This is a very bad situation and the best way, to deal with this kind of personality, is to be prepared and put words to it. If you don’t know how to express, how you feel or think, because you are lacking the right words, it is time to educate yourself, so you can defend your base with quick remarks and show the villain, that you don’t want to play this game at all.
One of the best tools i have found, is to write things down in a calendar. Not like a diary, but more like a notebook, where you note things of events, like phone calls, visitors, observations, statements etc. So when someone comes to you and claim, that this and that, was then and there. You can check it and maybe correct it, right on the spot. Most “gaslighters” will quickly back down and soon avoid you, when proven wrong to often or simply just respect you, in a different way.
Here are a couple of links, that will show you, how serious this problem is, and notice the comment sections, for real life experiences.
Bellow is the Movie, that gave name to this inferior technique and you might have seen it already, but with this information in mind, you ought to see it again…
Recommended Book: The Gaslight Effect